Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Bad Mom Rising

I'm sick of listening to mommy bloggers label themselves as a "bad mommy" or claim that they're going to get "the bad mommy award" because they aren't perfect or do something that the "perfect mommies" would consider "bad." It's tiresome.

Letting your child watch two movies in a row does not make you a bad mommy.

Giving your child a piece of candy, when you usually don't, does not make you a bad mommy.

Not exclaiming loudly over every piece of art your child ever created, and then not keeping it forever, does not make you a bad mommy.

You're not a bad mommy, OK? You know it and we know it. There is no perfect mommy, but even if there were, not being perfect doesn't make you bad. If you need validation that you're a good mom and you need other mommies to assure you that no, you're not bad mommy, consider finding another way to get it. Continuing to proclaim that you're a bad mom isn't subversive, it's just tired.


7 comments:

Sandi said...

I hope you aren't talking to me! but even if you are, what the hell?

I love the title of this rant. I may have to steal it and make it the title of a blog. VERY CLEVER! I find myself humming a tune...

K.Line said...

Oooh. Touche.

Kirsten said...

Oh my. Now I'm afraid you are talking to me. Point taken.

heartatpreschool said...

Get your point, but I think that a lot of Mommy bloggers use their blog to get some of the Mommy guilt off their chest, for not being what society views as the "perfect Mom".

I say, blog how you like. If people don't like it, they don't have to read it.

Julie B. said...

So is it appropriate to call yourself a bad mommy if you let your 3 year old watch tv for 6 hours straight?

Marinka said...

I'm with heartatpreschool!

p.huong said...

My mom used hit me as a form of discipline (no not just a pat on the ass, think bamboo sticks, yard sticks, fly swatters with the metal handle, and feather dusters... and a lot of running and hiding) I don't think she's a bad mother. She has other child raising techniques that I probably shouldn't share... But I turned out just fine! Or... at least I'd like to think so..

I don't think I've ever watched 6 straight hours of TV in one day as a kid, but then again I wouldn't be able to remember doing so at the age of 3. But be careful! Have you seen that Hulu commercial?