Tuesday, May 19, 2009

The Wheels on the Bus....

I know this is probably unfair. But I work from home. My husband lost his job. Now every day he waits outside to meet the kids. I suppose I should be happy. But it just annoys me. I think part of it is I am secretly holding off as long as possible for the entire world to know he is unemployed. He is outside so much he might as well take out a billboard -- I am  unemployed.  The second, I look forward to the kids running up to greet me. And I've been doing it now for many years... so I'm a cranky bitch... but only on the inside.
 
 

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

Good luck with him finding a job.

You never know, one of the neighbours might be able to point him in the direction of some work, even if its just a temporary fill-in position whilst he looks for something else.

Don't be ashamed or embarrassed. It's not your fault.

marathon mom said...

I can sympathize - I am in the exact same situation and have been for - a year. Your feelings come from an honest place - you just want to be the mom. Things are improving and something will happen soon... Hang in there & hugs!

TeacherMommy said...

That's tough. Remember two things: (1) he's definitely not alone in being unemployed, so it's not exactly a shameful thing in today's economy, and (2) it's incredibly sweet that he's taking advantage of this time to connect with the kids. You can BOTH wait for them--make it a family event that will (hopefully) be short-lived, but is to be valued while it happens.

Good luck!

Anonymous said...

So... it's all about you??

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the support. I guess I just don't want pity from the neighbors. It is true, there might be someone out there with a job for him... if they knew he needed one. So good point. I can also admit, it is easier for me to quietly freak out about his unemployment if I don't have everyone on the street discussing it or asking about. I do better with my head in the unemployment sand.

Anon, it isn't all about me. If it was, I'd actually say my feelings out loud instead of posting them on a whining web site. I realize some of my feelings probably seem unfair. And I said that in my whine. But unemployment affects everyone in the family. I spend my days working.. he goes to exercise, mow the grass, watch TV, read in the sun. Then the kids come home... he is right there. But then disappears for homework and story time.

I guess this is an extended whine...

Manic Mommy said...

You're putting it out there to the universe that he needs a job. Hopefully the universe is listening. Good for you for getting it off your chest here instead of to him.

TMCPhoto said...

I like the suggestion of going out to greet the kids with him. that's a great way to connect with him as well. Manic Mommy is right too. The universe listens