Friday, May 1, 2009

The whine about the husband

The husband sucks. The husband got drunk and picked fights with people at my mother's funeral.  My siblings are pissed off and don't want to ever see him again. In fact, they think he's dangerous. I don't think he's dangerous - I know he's depressed and angry.

What am I supposed to do? Apologize for him? NO. Defend him? NO. 

Fuck this shit.

I've told him that he needs to make amends - he claims he's circling around it, trying to find the right way, the right words.

Did I say fuck this shit? Well, I said it again.

Time to call the shrink.


shrink on the couch said...

Sorry : ( You're not responsible for his behavior, of course not. So no, don't apologize FOR him, but I think it might be good for sibling relations to say sorry for him having hurt their feelings, that you've brought it to his attention and now it's his turn.

If they think he's dangerous, is that because he's got a lot of aggressive mannerisms? Getting in someone's face, or personal space?

If he gets drunk with any regularity, seeking an Al-Anon meeting might not be a bad idea for you (Al-Anon is for people who have loved ones with drinking problems). It's really tough navigating a loved one who drinks too much and makes social blunders.

cw2smom said...

I am sooooo sorry this happened at your Mom's funeral service, of all places. How awful for all of you. As the previous commenter said, if you haven't tried Al-Anon, it might be helpful. You'll find a group of loving, understanding, and non-judgemental people who have been or are currently going through the same kind of SHIT and are happy! It literally saved my life! May you find strength and peace...Lisa