Monday, June 29, 2009

Sometimes being nice is the wrong thing to be...

I decided to help a family out and watch their daughter 2-3 days a week for them while they work this summer (for no pay).  In fact, it's costing me money b/c I have to feed her throughout the day!  Their daughter is the same age as my daughter (7) and they are great friends.  Well, today they have been butting heads and my daughter is upset and just wants her space.  It got so bad at one point that my daughter was crying.  I feel like having this girl over so often is becoming too much for my daughter and now I feel bad that I ever offered. 

How do I get out of this one?  Ugh.

5 comments:

Aludra said...

Ask them if their daughter is still enjoying spending time at your house and if she wouldn't enjoy a week doing something else. Likely, their daughter came home a lot less happy than she left that day. If not, let them know that your daughter isn't used to spending so much time with her friend and that to keep the kids' friendship going they should spend a little less time together and take a week off. This happens to lots of kids at that age.

Anonymous said...

The upside of volenteering- it that it dosn't cost you anything to quit.

Set aside some time to tazlk to this childs parents. Let them know YOU feel your child is getting overwealmed. Make sure that there's someone to care for this kid(if they're workign and you're actually sitting, and not just having the girl over). Then bow out. You can always allow the child over LESS often (say only once a week) if getting her totally out of your house dosn't seem like a good idea.

Good luck!

Anonymous said...

First of all it's great that you offered. Unfortunately offers don't always assume things will work out perfectly. It's a good learning experience that your daughter can learn from and you can better define your limits next time. And more than the cost of an extra sandwich or 2(7 year olds don't eat that much) the real payback is what the parents and kids are learning from your selfless giving.

ShallowGal said...

Fake strep. Or lice. Or ask if they can take your daughter on Saturday night so you can have a date.

All 3 are equally effective in my experience.

Anonymous said...

I cut it down to one day a week. Thanks for the advice!