Thursday, October 22, 2009

Elitist?

I'm at a place in my life where I have the resources to hire a maid. I worked hard to put my husband through school. I've had three children, and I spend all.day.looooong. with them. I work hard. And I shouldn't feel bad about hiring someone to help out around the house. But I do. I feel like an elitist. I fear I'm becoming the very person I abhor. Do I really have more money than brains?

I can't complain about this to most folks about this. "Oh...poor thing. You have more money than you know what to do with. Money to hire babysitters and a maid and someone to wash the dogs. Your life must be so hard."

I don't want to be that person, but I really love walking into a clean house.

(Also, I simply can't call her "my maid". She doesn't belong to me.)

7 comments:

momcat said...

Cleaning lady? And why not - you deserve it. How many years do you have to battle anyway?

Manic Mommy said...

I just spent an hour scrubbing down my kitchen cabinets. It's an hour of my life I'll never get back. Hire the cleaner.

CAT said...

You know, unless cleaning the house is part of how you 1)define yourself or 2) "justify your existence" (and let me be pefectly clear, there is nothing wrong with that) then if you have better things to do with your time hire a cleaning person! You will be doing your bit to help the economy!!!

Katie said...

You know, you might feel better about it if you hired her and then sent her to someone else's house to clean for them, too. Say. . . maybe. . . oh I don't know, mine? Then you'd be doing good for not only her, but for a whole other family in serious need of someone to do a little housekeeping. And wouldn't that make you feel like a wonderful person and justify the hours spent in your home.

After all, you did say she's not {your} maid. Just sayin'.

Tammigirl said...

Your doctor doesn't belong to you, but you call them your doctor.

Hire a maid and allow yourself to rejoice in it. She will likely cost less per month than a heavy smoking habit.

Janine said...

As an FYI, most people in the developing world hire domestic help no matter how "well-off" they are or are not. Nobody in the third world feels guilty about giving someone a job, or thinks it is unreasonable to need more than one person to manage a household. So unless you are planning on having more children, or getting another wife--go for it.

Have you considered that the only thing "elitist" about the situation, may be your attitude? THE (not your) housekeeper could just as easily be Joseph-the-political-science-major from Smart People University, who needs to make some extra cash. You seem to think that only undereducated women clean houses for a living. David Sedaris, a very successful author, still cleans houses for a living.

Even if it were the case that you 1. hire a woman and 2. this is the best job she can get; there is nothing demeaning about the housework that has to be done every day. If you respected the importance of the job in the first place, you would have no trouble treating the person who does it with respect. Including yourself.

country mouse said...

Dang, I'm always late in these conversations . . . Imagine how happy your cleaning lady was when she landed a new client! Take the help where you can get it and enjoy your life and your time!