Wednesday, January 13, 2010

I have this foster baby. And everyone who sees her says "I don't know how you do it, I could never give them up." So I say "Well clearly then, you're the better person here." And suddenly *I'm* the bitch?

6 comments:

Quirkyloon said...

Unbelievable!

You are helping that baby! People can be so thoughtless with their words.

Get a clue (not you) people!

For the record I've been a fost/adopt Mom.

marathon mom said...

you need to get a trac phone and skank call that bitch every time foster baby gets hungry in the middle of the night.

Anonymous said...

now see I would interpret the statement "I don't know how you do it, I could never give them up" as having a compliment in it. They could be stating that they could not be as selfless as you and they would only be thinking of their own needs and feeling and how hard it would be for them to give the child up. But you would be the stronger one who can see past your own needs and feeling and be able to do what is in the best interest of the child. You are able to give of yourself completely with no strings attached. Now that is how I would interpret it but then again I was not there when it was said.

Katie said...

I guess I see it like you see it -- a "Boy, you must be less attached and colder than me" type of statement. Those people suck. You're brave for loving and letting go to a (hopefully) full, complete life with a forever family. You're brave for stepping in where others don't dare to tread. You, my dear, are AWESOME! (and you deserve a snide remark to dumb strangers once in a while.)

Anonymous said...

I foster and am not really looking to adopt. You have nothing to feel guilty about, you are doing those children and society a service.

phd in yogurtry said...

It is very hard to let go, I'm sure, but it isn't as if you designed the arrangement. I have worked with foster kids. A very verry needy group who deserve the best of care. You've got my admiration and appreciation for offering quality parenting while you can.