Saturday, September 11, 2010

I may be mocked but I'm willing to take the chance...

Here's a whine for ya...

I'm thin. Not ghostly, bone protruding thin, but for an over forty
year old woman I am doing all right, sort of. I work out, eat right,
eat wrong, I am raising 4 children (two of whom will be in high school
this coming fall), I drink wine. I also complain about my body. I
complain about my expanding waist and my sagging boobs. The weight is
creeping up and no one likes that I want to complain about it. Yes,
you heard right - I'm complaining and I say we thin gals have a right!
My friends roll their eyes when I tell them it's hard to find a size 3
(2s can be snug on the old butt and 4s bag on my waist). "Oh such
problems," they mutter - not so I can't hear them, mind you. I get it.
People want to be thin, but I am watching things happen to my body,
too. Why can't I complain about them? I have a belly roll. I don't
like my belly roll. Why do you laugh when I show it to you? My butt
has gotten bigger, it has! And it depresses me. Do I have to have a
butt you could land a plane on for you to acknowledge that my bigger
self icks me out like yours does? Let us thin friends into your circle
of misery, that's all we ask. I want to be able to say to you "Oh, I
shouldn't have that" when we both stare at the double chocolate layer
cake and have you tell me "no, you shouldn't". I want you to nod your
head in understanding when I complain that I DO need Spanx under that
new dress and I want you to mean it!!!
Diane Kutney


Alicia said...

I'm with you sister! being too thin can cause just as many insecurities as being big. and it's not fair that thin people can't complain about their weight or any changes.

shrink on the couch said...

You are right. You are entitled to gripe along with the rest of us.

I think for me, when I'm next to a thin(ner) person complaining about how she looks, I wonder how disgusting they must find MY body. So it's a reaction of fear that she is thinking how much more of a lard-a$$ I am. Does that make sense? It doesn't excuse the brush offs, though.

Anonymous said...

Size 3s are only for preteens and teenagers. Stop wearing them, you are far too old to be wearing any clothing that comes in a 3. Shop in adult stores. Maybe then your friends wont find you so annoying.

Anonymous said...

Well put, lady! I'm not really thin, not fat either. Just approaching 40 and frustrated by the same things you are. And gray hair outnumbers the rest these days! At least my stylist can fix that. He has presented no solutions to backfat, however. Gotta love my "bralelluia" by Spanx!

Anonymous said...

Great writing! I wish you could follow up to this topic :)


The Girl Next Door said...

Oh I OWN this whine. I have gained 10 pounds but most would not call me fat. But my "before" body? So way better than what I see when I look in the mirror - belly roll and cellulite. UGH. Love your blog!

Anonymous said...

I agree! Over 40 myself and a size 5. I cant' shop in the adult section Ms Anonymous because like our poster said, 2's if you can find them are too small and 4's bag on my waist! I may be thin but I have high cholesterol so I have to actually watch what I eat! I think we all can complain about the changes in our bodies. Its a woman's right, no matter what her size.

DLK said... original comment never showed up. So if this repeats itself, I apologize.

Thank you guys for your comments, I am glad you understand - well, most anyway. It does feels good to whine!!

And thanks so much for checking out my blog. I'm new to this and having a blast!!

Anonymous said...

Do I have to teach you everything? Cheri, women over 30 in odd sized clothes look ridiculous because you are wearing juniors clothes. Get a decent tailor and buy clothes that are made for you and age appropriate.

Anonymous said...

last few days our group held a similar talk on this subject and you illustrate something we haven't covered yet, appreciate that.

- Kris

Anonymous said...

Just because your butt isn't as big as your friend's butt doesn't mean you don't get to gripe about it. Everyone else is allowed to complain about their bodies, you should be able to, too. No one is perfect. And EVERYONE would benefit from Spanx under a dress.

DLK said...

My point with the size 3 was not about shopping in junior stores (eek). But that I want to complain that I can't find clothes to fit me. But when I mention I'm between a 2 and 4 my friends roll their eyes - like my problem is less justified because I am thin.

Anyon...not sure why you suggested I stop wearing my size?? If I'm a 3, I'm a 3. Doesn't matter if I'm 14 or 44. Trust me I only shop in adult stores. The point was that I want to complain along with my friends that can't find size 11!!

yogurt - I do understand. I've never, ever thought my friends were lard a$$es because they might be bigger than I. I understand their complaints because I'm dissatisfied in the changes in my bod, too. I'd like to join the pitty party, that's all.

To everyone else..So glad you understand. It is an interesting topic. I'm gonna go check out your blogs!!! Thanks for the comments!